Real Beauty Women

Moving Day Has Arrived!

2009-01-08T09:58:00.001-08:00

How exciting! Today is the day that Danielle and I will be moving the content for True Femme from this blog, to the new site! If you are a follower of this blog, please make sure to follow over at the new site as well. This will ensure that you stay updated on all True Femme news and posts!
We officially launch True Femme on Jan 19th, 2009. Last minute details are being set in stone, but we will still be putting new content up here in the meantime.
Don't forget to tune into "Danielle & Kadi: Uncorked" on Jan 12th, for an announcement about True Femme's launch! If you miss the show, you can always hear it later on the True Femme site. Thanks for making the move with us!

Joining Our Campaign

2009-01-07T09:23:00.000-08:00

At first, I was sure that nobody would be brave enough to post pictures of themselves, aside from Danielle and I. After all, it is a very humbling experience to put your untouched photos on display for all the world to see. I was wrong. Apparently, there are other women out there who want to make changes in themselves and are unafraid enough to share their journey with all of us. I'm very pleased with this realization and am proud to introduce our newest partner in the quest to a more fabulous us. Meet Megan:

"I am a 28 year old married mother of two boys ages 7mos and 7 years. I am 5' 2 1/2" tall and currently weigh 138 lbs. My goal is to loose 15 lbs and become more tone and physically fit. Not only would I like to look better, but more importantly, live a healthier lifestyle and feel good about myself."

Thank you, Megan, for overcoming your fears and sharing with us! Anyone else who is interested in sharing your before photos, can email them to me along with your stats and goal info. Sharing your name is totally optional. We cannot wait to see all of the awesome after pictures!

Grab The Corkscrew!

2009-01-06T10:23:00.000-08:00

The time has come. We've introduced ourselves. We've unveiled our mission. We posted horrendous pictures of our less than wonderful body parts for you to relate to. And now, the time has arrived to announce:

January 12th, 2009 will mark the first air date of "Danielle & Kadi: Uncorked." What is Uncorked? Here's a short intro:

Tired of the same old boring crap you hear on talk radio? Me too. So Danielle and I created "Uncorked." It is the anti-craptastic show about the shit nobody else has the balls (metaphorically speaking) to talk about! Fair warning: we cuss.

The show will cover topics that most people don't dare touch with a ten foot pole. So why are we? Simply because we feel the need to address even the more taboo issues that women deal with. If we are to be True Femmes, then we need to shed light on all of the things women encounter in life. Of course, Danielle and I will be the ones hosting, so it may include lots of wine discussion and sex jokes. This will not be a show for little ears. We tend to put it all out there and not pussyfoot around!

You are cordially invited to join us next Monday 11am PST, to get a healthy dose of naughtiness! http://www.blogtalkradio.com/uncorked

We are about to publicly sink to new Mer-lows... Get your glass and let us pour you some!

The Grass Is Always Greener..

2009-01-06T09:43:00.000-08:00

Wow, so I have to follow Kadi with my before pics. Hmmm, talk about feeling nervous. I won't lie I would love to have her problem. See the body below is the body I love to hate. The same body that gave birth to my perfect son, the same body that I have abused for years, yet I still despise how it looks even though its served me well. This year that is all changing. No I don't want (or expect) to be tiny. It ain't going to happen, I am a curvy girl. Even at my smallest I had curves. My goal is to get fit and healthy and learn to love who I am.

The stats:
Size 10
weight: eek, I hate to say. But 155 (though a good portion of that could be the saline filled ta-tas)
height:5'6.5
The goal: defined muscles baby!! And say goodbye to the muffin top.
The pics:see below. Yes, my mirror is dirty. Yes, my dog is sleeping in my bed. Yes, that is a saddle in the background. And yes, if you leave a mean comment calling me fat, I will find you. (joking, maybe?)

Danielle

Focus On Fitness: The starting point

2009-01-06T08:58:00.000-08:00

Ok....(taking deep breaths.) Part of becoming a more fabulous lady, is swallowing our fears and taking the first step. Today, we will be focusing on getting physically fit. Not surprisingly, a whopping 49% of polled readers expressed the desire to lose weight or get in shape this year. Danielle and I are right there with ya! I may not be over weight, but I am not healthy or fit by any means. I am pretty sure that my muscle mass is .1% of my body wieght, or less! I want to get fit and be more healthy so that I live to see my grandkids and spoil them rotten. Why do you want to get fit?

Anybody who is feeling brave and wants to join us in getting fit, may email me their before pics to put up. If not, you can still join us! It would be nice for the readers to see the difference that our new in house fitness diva will help us make over the next few months! Oh, did I forget to mention that Danielle found a smokin' hot fitness expert who has graciously agreed to help us on the road to a more fabulous us? I will be posting about her later on today. For now, here are my before pics and what I'd like to work on:

This is me:

Just the facts mam: starting weight: 107 height: 5'4"

Goals: Tone muscles

Areas of focus: Gluteus maximus (butt), thighs and abdominals.

Close up of abdominal area.

Close up of rear area.

What would you like to work on?

Today, we begin our journey!

2009-01-01T09:20:00.000-08:00

Happy New Year!

You might be reading this blog because you believe that women deserve the right to feel beautiful, regardless of their size. Maybe you are reading it because you really feel like you need to lose weight or improve your life. You also might be reading it because you are wondering what this blog is all about. Either way, we are glad that you found us and we have no doubt that you will be glad too!

Danielle and I got the inspiration to create the True Femme campaign, in order to find and spread the knowledge of how to feel wonderful about ourselves. We recognize the gross lack of self esteem in women and feel that it is high time we address it and work to banish it. We were born unique individuals and yet, are expected to fit a certain mold as we become women. It is a crying shame that so many of the talents and attributes we were gifted with are downplayed in our own minds because we feel inadequate.

This country battles obesity, eating disorders, alcoholism, drug abuse and countless other travesties because those who suffer from them, often have underlying issues. Too many women eat to deal with emotional pain, while others starve to try to gain control of their feelings of inadequacy or helplessness. Some women just give up on looking and feeling good because they know that they will never measure up to the standards that society has set, or they have set for themselves. We have shifted priority from inner health to outer perfection. While it is great to strive to improve on ourselves, we are missing the point.

Beauty does not come only in a size 5, a certain hair color or flawless skin. Beauty is so much more than that. Being healthy is something that we need to strive for, instead of being skinny. Trust me, skinny does not equal happy or healthy. I am smaller than the national average and it does not mean that I do not struggle with self love. When I look in the mirror, I see inadequacy. When I look around, I see women who have bigger, smaller, prettier, better bodies than I. Why? Why am I not good enough? Why do I feel sub par?

Do you find yourself asking these questions? Do you know a friend or family member who battles image issues or communicates a need to be better than they are? The majority of women in the world need to be here with us on this journey. Whether you are a person who needs to learn, or has something to teach...you need to be here. Danielle and I are not your tour guides, because we are not experts. We are your companions on this journey. We will learn together, explore together and support each other. We will struggle, strive and I'm sure that at times, we will fall. However, there is strength in numbers and together, we will be able to get back up and keep moving forward toward our goal, which is ultimately to help you...

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Getting Ready For The New Year

2008-12-30T20:49:00.001-08:00

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Join Us!!

2008-12-30T10:45:00.000-08:00

As we prepare for our move and all the lovely changes we have in the works, we want to make sure you come along! So sign up for our newsletter to get all the scoop on our upcoming launch!

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Changes

2008-12-29T21:40:00.000-08:00

Please bear with Danielle and I as we make an exciting transition to our new domain and all of the wonderful things that are happening with this project!

We are in the midst of relocating this blog, starting our new show and creating a brand new concept of loving yourself and bringing life changes into fruition! We will keep everyone updated as these changes come about, via a newsletter. Tomorrow, you will be able to sign up for the newsletter, so that the transition will be a smooth one. We hope you all look forward to the new year and the new endeavor that we will be embarking on with you! Thank you for being a part of our journey!~
Kadi and Danielle

Reflecting on 2008

2008-12-29T21:27:00.000-08:00

As we teeter on the edge of 2008, I reflect on what the year has brought about for me and my life. Many things have changed and therefor, caused me to change.

This year, I lost a very important person in my life. I struggled to help my son find the hope and courage to want to live. I let the nation peer into the life of my family. I felt the hurtful verbal wrath of strangers, as a result. I made many new friends and lost a few as well. I was reunited with a dear cousin who I'd been estranged from for many years. I left my 20's and entered my 30's. I battled depression and am winning. I got to see the great compassion of people and also the severe lack of. I also got to see both in myself. I have come out of this year a different woman.

Everything that 2008 held for me, made me a better person. The challenges tested my strength and faith. The celebrations kept me motivated. The dark moments made me question myself and clarify who I really am and want to be. The people I've met have all had an impact on my life's path in some way. I find all of the moments very instrumental in helping me become the person I am. The good and bad all seemed to harmonize into a symphony that is both haunting and euphonious. It is a strange and beautiful thing...life. I am blessed to have the life that I do and I look forward to everything that the new year brings.

I encourage you all to take a few moments to reflect on this past year and journal or share how you have changed.

Beauty Is You

2008-12-22T13:47:00.000-08:00

What is beauty?

It is not a dress size.
It cannot be bottled and sold.
Beauty is not a label.
It is not a word reserved for the perfect.
It is not flawless skin.
It is not perfect coiffures and perky breasts.
Beauty is not grace.
It is not lengthy legs
or hourglass figures.
Beauty is not full, pouty lips.
It is not what you see in glamour magazines.
Beauty is not something to be achieved.
It is not something to be coveted.
It is not at all what you think it is.
Beauty is not in the eye of the beholder.

Beauty is weathered hands from doing laundry.
It is the uneven proportions of the common woman.
It is ivory, ebony and every color in between.
Beauty is the sweat beaded brow from childbirth.
It is the tears of pain and joy that fall from loving eyes.
It is the lines etched from a mother's worry.

Beauty is truth.
Beauty is courage.
Beauty is compassion and generosity.
It is plump, it is thin.
It is tall, it is short.
It is what stares back at us in the mirror,
longing to be recognized.
Beauty is real.
Beauty is you.
Beauty is in the eye of she who chooses to see it in herself.